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The third child debate. My husband and I... Well, I am considering a third child. My husband is well, being a husband and kind of, sort of, maybe considering a third. I think we should go for it. I yearn so badly for another child. I just feel like our little family would be complete... and I'd have no more babies after that.
One of his reasonings is that he is too old. Um. the man is going to be 32 this year. He thinks the dynamics of our family will change too much and he can't see Mini-Sergeant (my sons new nickname) being a middle child. Babies cost, we'd have to get a new car and it would be harder to PCS with 3 children. :-(
While I respect his thoughts, I do think that most of them can be dealt with, except, well, his age. Haha!
I'm at a loss here guys. I need to hear from people who have 3 kids! How do you do it? What happened after the third; how did you decide to have a third. Do you honestly think it was a good decision? Please, Please help! Even if you don't have three I'd still like your input! Thanks.
Mrs. Sergeant
11 comments:
Oh, Dumb Dad had reservations about baby #3. As I'm always right we are happier now that #3 is a member of the family. Can't imagine life without him or remember life before him. I'd have another if I could. He'd runaway if we did! Good luck with your debate:)
P.S. Your kids are cuties!
I say do it while you both are still young! It gets harder when you are all crusty and old like me and the old man. GO FOR IT!
Okay, I don't have kids, but I don't know anyone who has "one more kid" and then regrets it. Do you? My brother came 10 years after me and my sister. I can't imagine life without him! (Or I can, but it's pretty bland :))
Thanks everyone!
JG, I actually do know someone who regrets having a third and the Mr. knows said Debbie Downer as well. I don't get why she's not happy as her daughter is an absolute joy to be around and I love her to death. Totally sweet what you said about your sibling! :-)
Mrs. Sergeant
Here I am....Mother of 3...ALL GIRLS!!!!!! HELP ME!!! WEll the 3rd was a surprise but a joyful one after complete shock and utter confusion of why my BC pills did not work...Thats another story. But we love her just the same. We made it into a game with her being a surprise birth and everything. Going from 2 to 3 is not hard. The hardest is going from 1 to 2. It gets easier. The children learn to amuse each other and the world goes on. Men or men they are NEVER prepared for children. Its like ther feel it makes them instant "old men". Just rub her head and tell him its okay.
I say go for it. The bigger the better.
Baby #3 was a HUGE surprise for us. She pretty much rocked my world. She is everything we never knew our family was missing. I knew I wanted one more and Dan thought about maybe one day thinking about another LOL! I think God decided for us or we probably never would have. When it is just me with all 3 kiddo's it is either total failure or major success. I say you KNOW when your family is complete and know when it isn't. GO FOR IT!
Go for it! I don't have any of my own yet, but I am 34 and well age is NOT going to stop me. ;)
Well as someone who didn't stop until 4, I'd say, it does change the dynamic but usually it's for the better. Any child regardless of where they rank numerically in the family is a joy to have...a blessing.
As with all things, you don't know how it will affect you until you actually do it. Both #3 and #4 were surprises for us (3 boys/ 1 girl) but they were surprises we never knew we wanted or needed. But they are SO MUCH FUN. :)
Talk it out. Make sure it's right for you and your family. And then just do what feels right. :)
We have decided we want a third child but our question is when. Family planning is hard at every step. We didn't plan our first two and somehow we managed just fine. Now that we want to be mature and give family planning a thought, it somehow seems scary to us. I hope you decide to go ahead and have another but if you don't then I'm sure you will be happy with that too. Your current family looks loving and close. You are still blessed in whatever your decision shoudl be.
he is too old at age of 32 for the 3rd kid? No way! My husband is 34 and we still don't have our first! Tell your husband he needs to come up with a better excuse. ;)
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